Here is a little secret about me....
I was a virgin when I met my husband. If you must know the truth I didn't expect it to happen that way. Believe me it's not that I had incredibly high standards or anything. I just found it impossibly hard to sleep with any of the guys I dated. They were either too stupid, drunk, or harassing about sex. All of these kill a woman's desire to lose their virginity. Later when I met my husband, I wasn't thinking of sex, just what a great person he was. But after a month of dating...I jumped his bones. Yep, it was totally me. He totally didn't expect it and he was very nervous. Overall, the first experience wasn't all that great but whose first experience is fantastic? After much practice, we are now pros in the sack and very inventive. Over the years as our love grew so did our sex. Love is the best kind of aphrodisiac and I do experience a spiritual connection like I am a part of my husband when we are having sex. The best sex I ever had was when we got married, that is definitely in the top 5 of my Best Sex Ever List. I don't feel sad or lacking because I never got to sow my wild oats. I am just lucky that I found my soulmate on my first try. It kind of sucks though. When we decide to have kids I am going to have to explain to them that I have only been with their father. They may think that I am either lying or uncool but I can live with being uncool.
posted by Angelique at 9:45 AM
12 Comments:
First of all, I applaud you for keeping your virginity until marriage (even if it was unintended). Secondly, when you have kids, I think they would respect that you saved yourself. I have a teenage son and there was something that I've never done (which is smoke pot or do any other illegal drug) and I told him about it. I told him that it's not very common for people not to experiment, but it was something that I was proud of myself for never doing. I think that approaching it like that - letting your kids know your choices, but that you will not love them any less if they don't follow your path - is imperative.
Thanks, Jen! I sort of saved myself for marriage. I dated my husband for 8 years before I married him and during that time we were living it up, living in sin. My only regret is that I didn't marry him sooner and make him an honest man earlier. Thanks for the advice. I am really feeling the urge to have kids but I still have a lot more school to get through.
How much school do you have left? I saw your age on your profile - you're still young and have plenty of time for kiddos. :-)
Yeah, I guess I should quit my bitching. I have plenty of time but lately I have been really longing to have kids. I have at least 3-4 more years of school left.
Ouch - that's a bit of school left. What are you studying?
If you can put off having kids, it makes school easier. And the farhter you go, the more time it takes. Doesn't mean you can't have kids and go to school. It's a mtter of balance.
Jen, I am trying to graduate with a BS in Nursing. I would to do some research in nursing especially in public health. Eventually I would like to become a nurse practitioner. So, I got a little bit more time go. It sucks more because even though I will be finished with all my prequisites for nursing in a year there is at least a year wait to get into a school. It sucks but there are more students than teachers and people wonder why there is a nursing shortage.
Monty, thanks for setting me straight. I am just fighting pressures from my parents to pop out grandkids now. It sucks when a birthday present includes a huge bottle of prenatal vitamins. Talk about pressure.
That's very admirable - I think you will not be disappointed to go into a helping profession ( I did and I'll never regret it). I should also say that I had a child when I was young and, even though he was not planned, he was the best thing that happened to me. I had him when I had finished my first year of college and I ended up going back to school when he was 8 months old. I went through grad school as a single parent, to boot. However, I had my family to help me, so I agree with Monty - there's a way to have kids and be in school, but it's not easy. I think each person has to weigh all the options and think of what is best for them. :-)
Your son sounds very lucky to have such a great and wise mom. I am looking foward to being a nurse and I am glad to share my thoughts about being a parent someday. I think for now I am just going to keep babying my cats since I don't have to worry about paying for their college anytime soon.
Autumn, thanks. When ever I am hanging out with my girlfriends and they found out that I have only been with one man, they think that I lived in a cave or I was super religious which I am neither. I appreciate it all the support and now I don't feel so uncool.
Damn, I haven't been with a man yet.
PLEASE stick with the nursing. When you realized that here weren't enough teachers you got an insight into the real depth of the nursing shortage. I get 5 e mails a day from people that want to teach me to become a health professional recruiter, to try to find qualified individuals.
OK, before you ask, people don't teach other people how to do the business they are in, who needs the competition. They are leveraging themself, saying I'll take a slice of what you get for teaching you how, because we can place enough people in a month to make a living. I'll make a living teach YOU how to do it, and I'll let youy starve doing it.
BE THE NURSE.
not that I have an opinion, mind you.
Thanks, Monty, for the support. I appreciate it. It's going to be a long and tough journey but one that I am really looking foward to.
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